Today, i want to talk to the singles based on what i read on the facebook some days back by a brother who analyzed our dear sisters comically regarding seeking for a marriage partner. This morning, i am going to share with u, especially our singles on Choosing the right marriage partner. Be blessed as u read.: --
Choosing
The Right Marriage Partner
The
two most important decisions of a man or woman’s life are usually faced and
resolved for better and worse – in adolescence; whether or not to follow Christ
and who to marry.
The
problem of choosing “the right person” to marry can occasion intense struggle
and no little confusion in a young man or woman’s mind.
The
question of “the right one” comes particularly strongly to those who do not
believe in divorce who want to marry once,
Many
young people look at the divorces and unhappy marriages that exist all around
them and wonder whether they can expect any better. They observed seemingly
mismatched couples and worry about making the wrong choice. They witness
abusive relationships and fear becoming victims of a poor choice.
Many
youth do make mistake in dating and marriage, and some of their mistakes are
tragic. Very often, however, such mistakes are not the result of not find the
right person but result from other causes.
Not Being the Right Person
Teens
and young adults routinely make the mistake of looking for and praying for the
right person to come along while giving little or no attention to being the
right person. The young person who is not surrendered to God, who is not
obeying the parts of God’s will that have been revealed. Instead of
praying and working to become a young man or woman who is ready to make
lifetime commitment before God, many frantically look for mate in every date –
and so set themselves up for disappointment.
Looking for the Wrong Person
Similarly,
some young men and women look for “the right one” without realizing they’re
actually for the wrong one. They paint pictures in their minds of what
“the right one” will be like. The list often starts with stunning physical beauty,
self-confident charm, and impeccable manners, and may also include spiritual
and social characteristics.
Having the Wrong Motives
Mistakes
in dating and marriages are often the result of unwise even ungodly motives.
Even Christian teens and young adults often seek a mate for the wrong reasons.
· Pressure
Play. When a couple’s parents keep pushing them to marry, they often marry, or
when one partner pressures the other one, they often marry…
· Meet
My needs. Many people marry primarily to have their own needs met, rather than
to meet the needs of their spouse. These needs may center on self-esteem, sex,
emotions, fiancés, or other needs.
· Crisis
Pregnancy. An untold number of couple marry each year because of crisis
pregnancy. In some rare situations, this is best, but not in the most cases.
·
After a Breakup. Often people marry soon after an painful ending relationship.
· Escaping
Parents. Some marry because of a bad home life.
Nobody like to be forced into a relationship. Being
“set up” for a date, or being continually hounded about one’s romantic life by
since overbearing family members and friends can be unsettling, to say the
least. And even though a person may want to be married someday, the often
awkward process of finding the right person can seem to more bother than it’s
worth. Add to that the risk of making a life-altering mistake, and the decision
making process can be paralyzing.
In many parts of the world, a single youth do not
have a choice about who to marry. Marriages are arranged by the family (usually
the father), and brides are treated much family property.
Frequent questions:
·
What kind of person does God want for me?
·
What if Mom and Dad or my friends don’t like the
person I think is right?
·
Does it make much if we aren’t both believers in
Christ?
·
Am I getting more and more interested in someone
but unsure if that one is marriage material?
·
Or am I longing to be married but not getting any
attention?
Attitudes toward marriage continue to change. In
highly mobile, urbanized cultures where family clans are not the chielf forces
and fathers do not reign like kings, the decision-making process of bride and
groom selection has shifted to the individual preference of the single people
involved, though usually with the desire for family approval. But this
has not always meant to the single person has made better decisions.
Single young people are all capable of getting
married for the wrong reasons. As young person might enter marriage on the
basics of romantics feeling alone or only cold facts.
The bible offers helpful principles that apply to
young men and women.
Join me tomorrow for the concluding part of this topic, till then - remain blessed,
See u at the top!
Your friend in d lord,
Pastor Mike
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